A Talk on Human Sexuality

Ok, I will start this by defining some terms first:

Premarital Sex- this is when couples engage in an intercourse occurring or existing before marriage.

Rape- forcing of somebody into sex.

Sexual Harassment- unwanted sex-related behaviour toward somebody.

Abortion- it is the operation to end pregnancy.

Murder- crime of killing somebody.

This are the only terms I know related to “The Adolescent Life: Challenges and Solutions”

Honestly, I did not attend the talk held last Sept. 18, 2010 in our school but I still want to talk about the theme of this talk and give some insights about this. To start with this, talks are great especially if we can learn something from this and will benefit us. This talk is all about the causes why teenagers and adults engage in premarital sex (I referred this on the pamphlet given to me by my classmate). The pamphlet mentioned some reasons or causes of teenagers why they engage in premarital sex like:

->The need for Intimacy

- Since some of the teenagers are being rejected by their parents or sometimes their family, they usually strive to experience this from others like their friends, boyfriends or girlfriends.

->The need for Belongingness

- Some of the teenagers want to feel that they are accepted and understood by others.

->Curiosity

- This is one reason why teenagers experiment and experience anything for pleasure.

->Rebellion

- Broken families and sometimes if the parents of the teen is always fighting with each other, there is a tendency for the teen to rebel to his or her parents.

->A way to cope with stress

- Stressed teens can easily be irresponsible that lead to wrong decisions and irresponsible behaviours with bad consequences.

Another thing that the pamphlet says is the excuses adolescent use to engage in premarital sex like:

-s/he is afraid to lose the relationship

-imagines “everyone” is doing it.

- wants to prove that he is a real man or that she is a real woman.

- thinks that s/he “owes” it to the person.

- feels guilty for making the other person sexually excited.

- feels pressured or intimidated.

- is curious.

- does not want to be old-fashioned or “square”.

- thinks that it is the next step in the relationship.

- seeks to have affection and warmth.

- wants to “prove” love.

- thinks s/he will find security.

- cannot “help himself/ herself”.

I think that some of these are true because it is the reason given by a boy or a girl to his boyfriend or girlfriend and then when one approved to do it they will make love all night. I disagree on one thing, that sex is one of the things needed to prove your love to someone; it is not only by sex that you can express your love to someone but also in many ways. Having sex does not mean that you love a person but it can also mean that the person is just using you for their own selfish reasons. If we truly love someone we can wait until we got married before we engage in this intercourse.

Another good thing this talk is that it gives teenagers like us to have a good knowledge on the do’s and don’ts of having premarital sex and if we will also engage in it we might have some various diseases like HIV, AIDS, and cancer on our reproductive organs.

Saying no to premarital sex will have many good effects on us like we will not have unwanted or unexpected pregnancies, Reproductive Tract Infections, HIV, AIDS and many more. This will also help us in fulfilling our dreams in life.

Saying yes to this will make our lives miserable and will put a shame on us. So if we are asked to have a sex, we must think carefully and know the consequences of our decision.